Love Listens...

LOVE LISTENS. I was told not to mention the overly-obvious. But this needs to be said, because many of us forget to act along the overly-obvious, and we do miss out on the many opportunities to express supreme love.

. For one who really really loves, the loved one’s heart and mind are very important, often even many times more important than one’s own because effort has to be exerted to make sure that the loved one is fully and deeply understood.

. The schools have taught us the parts of the ear, but they forgot to teach us how to listen, especially to words we feel are opposed to our own perceptions, feelings and preferences. Both St. Francis of Assisi and Stephen Covey remind us that we ought to try real hard to understand before trying hard to be understood.

. But how good are we really at listening? What happens when we fail to listen fully? How important is this in our lives and in our relationships?

. Very. Ask anyone who has suffered the loved-one's silent treatment. you'd crave for feedback, for responses, that never come. You'd drave to listen and hear but only silence presents itself.

. Mishandling of this matter, of the mutual need to enjoy open and honest communications, has led to the early demise of what had earlier started as very sweet romantic relationships, sweet enough to be attacked by swarms of ants…